According to Dr. Laura
Berman "if you
don't feel sexy, you won't want sex." She recommends making "sexy a part of your daily routine." So go ahead and get those undergarments that make you feel sexy ladies! You are worth it, your partner will appreciate it, and everyone will be happier for it!
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"My partner and I have a great sex life, except for one thing: It's hard for me to go from "mommy" to "naughty" quickly, and often we only have time for a quickie. How can I make the transition?
It's not unusual for moms to struggle with the shift from mother to lover. Unhooking from the daily whirlwind and enjoying the here-and-now with your partner isn't always easy, but the more you do it, the better you'll get at it.
Some ways you can flip the switch:
CULTIVATE A FANTASY LIFE...all day long! Allowing erotic thoughts to flit in and out of your head during the day will lay the groundwork for the big event later on. Let your mind run wild while you're showering in the morning or stuck in traffic. The daydreams don't have to be about your partner, either. With fantasies, anything is fair game.
When you and your partner do hook up, tune in to one of your favorite fantasies to help get
you in the mood, pronto. MAKE "SEXY" A PART OF YOUR DAILY ROUTINE. If you don't feel sexy, you won't want sex. So you have to tap into that side of yourself regularly, even outside the bedroom. Whether it's enjoying a glass of wine or
wearing a leopard-print thong underneath your sweats, spicy rituals are concrete reminders that you're a sensual being.MEDITATE FORA MINUTE. When the moment presents itself, take a minute (he'll wait) to just breathe. During this decompression, allow yourself to let go of your "mommy" persona. You're
a great mother, but that's just one part of who you are. ASK THE MOM SQUAD Laura
Berman, Ph.D., author of Talking to Your Kids About. Sex, runs a sex therapy clinic in Chicago. Send her your questions at
momsquad@parenting.com. 1,000 ways to say "I love you" #393 "I say yes."
+Leslie Garrison,Raleigh,NC
Article was taken from July 2010 Parenting magazine.